Thursday, March 20, 2008

I was browsing through random blogs when I came across this entry. I think it is an interesting entry made by 'Wearing Sunscreen'.

Hope you will enjoy it as much as I did.

The meaning of silence

Seller used to say to me that he never wore a watch because it nagged at him and reminded him that he was late. From this he deduced that all watches were female. This, amongst his many other idiosyncrasies, used to make me laugh.

Women nag. Apparently. Thing is we don't see it that way. To us it's discussing a problem. To us it's opening that discussion. Admittedly, not in the most conducive of ways, but really, generally when you've GOT to talk about something, it really bothers you so you're probably not going to be thinking how conducive your opening words are. It's unacceptable to pretend it never happened and hope it goes away. Women by nature are not Ostriches.

And men complain about this. However if we never nagged then nothing would ever get resolved. Men grumble about it like it's the worst thing in the world.
But it's not.

It's when she's silent that there is a problem. Because when a woman is silent it's because she just doesn't care anymore.

Contrary to what we were taught in primary school, the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference.

For as long as it matters to her to talk it out. For as long as she is trying to understand and to make you understand. For as long as she brings the matter up. That is how long YOU matter. For that period of time your thoughts, actions and feelings matter to her. They have a bearing on how she thinks and feels. They count.

But when she is silent, she has given up on you. When she is silent, it just doesn't matter anymore. When she is silent she has no more expectations of you.

When she is silent, YOU do not matter. She is indifferent.

So yes, the opposite of love is indifference.


Padian said...

very true :)

I shall make a not of it... and report it in my blog ;)

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I think this post does have a point. There is a time when we do tend to give up

cells said...

yes, I think it is true as well. When we dont care and cant be bothered with things anymore, we just keep quiet..and that is more worrying than when we kept talking about it.

Kak, I shall read ur blog ;)

Dot, yes...theres a point in life..when we think we have done soo much and too much, that we just want to lay down and let go.

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To lie down and let go is giving up every hope there is. What good is there to hope?