I am so ANNOYED...
I dont understand why some people, if not most, have a NEED to impose 'authority' over others.
Have the NEED to do things that only makes their lives, and the people around them, DIFFICULT!!
They are usually PERFECTIONIST TO THE POINT BEYOND LOGICAL AND RATIONAL THINKING...and expect others to do things the same way.
ACCEPT IT...people are different...each with their own ways of doing things...do things in the way they understand it better...and it is not NECESSARILY DONE UR WAY.
THERES NO PERFECT or IDEAL ways of DOING THINGS IN THE WORLD.
DONT IMPOSE THE WAY YOU ARE COMFORTABLE TO DO THINGS ON OTHERS!
THEY MIGHT UNDERSTAND THINGS BETTER AND ARE ABLE TO DO MUCH MORE IF THEY DO IT THEIR WAY...
XXX
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Friday, October 24, 2008
Something missing...
I am 28 years old. Im blessed with a big extended family..aunties, uncles and cousins whom some I dont even know their real names. Friends from all sorts of background and a number of good trustable friends. I have a good education and a job with a reasonable pay, and I am seeing someone.
So why is it do I feel like there's still something missing...as if theres a missing 'brick' in the whole wide puzzle? Why is it I still feel lonely?
Don't get me wrong...I am absolutely thankful for the blessings Ive been given...the opportunities that came my way...the silly mistakes that made me a stronger and perhaps a better person.
The only question is...why am I feeling the way I feel?
xxx
I am 28 years old. Im blessed with a big extended family..aunties, uncles and cousins whom some I dont even know their real names. Friends from all sorts of background and a number of good trustable friends. I have a good education and a job with a reasonable pay, and I am seeing someone.
So why is it do I feel like there's still something missing...as if theres a missing 'brick' in the whole wide puzzle? Why is it I still feel lonely?
Don't get me wrong...I am absolutely thankful for the blessings Ive been given...the opportunities that came my way...the silly mistakes that made me a stronger and perhaps a better person.
The only question is...why am I feeling the way I feel?
xxx
Monday, October 20, 2008
My friend and I finally started our first day of what I call a 'permanent' or 'my never ending' attempt to lose weight and be fit...and oh my god!! Im so not fit!!! My friend said that if im not fit then i wont be able to reach the top of the first hill...which makes me feel better as I try to catch my breath at the top. lol. it means theres room for improvement..hehe.
So, may this be the beginning to whatever i dream of achieving...;p
xxx
So, may this be the beginning to whatever i dream of achieving...;p
xxx
Sunday, October 19, 2008
God's Boxes
I have in my hands two boxes,
Which God gave me to hold.
He said, 'Put all your sorrows in the black box,
And all your joys in the gold.'
I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,
Both my joys and sorrows I stored,
But though the gold became heavier each day,
The black was as light as before.
With curiosity, I opened the black,
I wanted to find out why,
And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,
Which my sorrows had fallen out by.
I showed the hole to God, and mused,
'I wonder where my sorrows could be!'
He smiled a gentle smile and said,
'My child, they're all here with me..'
I asked God, why He gave me the boxes,
Why the gold and the black with the hole?
'My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,
The black is for you to let go.'
So let's start focusing on our blessings and be grateful xxx
I have in my hands two boxes,
Which God gave me to hold.
He said, 'Put all your sorrows in the black box,
And all your joys in the gold.'
I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,
Both my joys and sorrows I stored,
But though the gold became heavier each day,
The black was as light as before.
With curiosity, I opened the black,
I wanted to find out why,
And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,
Which my sorrows had fallen out by.
I showed the hole to God, and mused,
'I wonder where my sorrows could be!'
He smiled a gentle smile and said,
'My child, they're all here with me..'
I asked God, why He gave me the boxes,
Why the gold and the black with the hole?
'My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,
The black is for you to let go.'
So let's start focusing on our blessings and be grateful xxx
Thursday, October 16, 2008
We had a lecture series this morning for military personnels and civilians and followed by my first trip to the training institute at Penanjong in the afternoon for our guest to give lecture to the junior cadets. it was interesting especially at the training institute as the cadets were more enthusiastic to ask questions during the Q&A.
Anyway, now m killing time at Cheezbox before its time for me to bring the guest to our dinner venue. To drive all d way home would be alang alang..so this is the next best option.
And so I got time to sit and reflect on myself..(which ive been doing alot lately...and sometimes too much for my own liking..;p)
Anyway, these are the areas which I need to pay more attention:
1) to enhance my knowledge
2) and more important...to 'maintain' it in my head...meaning i have to work on my memory 'power' and work on lessening the eefectiveness of my 'built-in block system' or my 'autodelete' system..lol.
3)Time management - I believe I've improve compared to how I was back in April 2008. However, more need to be done in terms of dividing tasks and using my time efficiently...and all this goes back to my 'brilliant' speed to blocking and auto-deleting information in myhead.
4) If there s such a thing called 'Internal Anger Management Course' or something like that, then I ll need to join it.
5)and to work on my greatest weaknesses...:
a) my self confidence
b) my indecisiveness
c) my lack of enthusiasm for certain important things in life
d) on how I can easily get bored of things. I need to find something that will keep me interested for a long time.
Anyway, its nearly 7pm now..I have to go. to be continued... xxx
Anyway, now m killing time at Cheezbox before its time for me to bring the guest to our dinner venue. To drive all d way home would be alang alang..so this is the next best option.
And so I got time to sit and reflect on myself..(which ive been doing alot lately...and sometimes too much for my own liking..;p)
Anyway, these are the areas which I need to pay more attention:
1) to enhance my knowledge
2) and more important...to 'maintain' it in my head...meaning i have to work on my memory 'power' and work on lessening the eefectiveness of my 'built-in block system' or my 'autodelete' system..lol.
3)Time management - I believe I've improve compared to how I was back in April 2008. However, more need to be done in terms of dividing tasks and using my time efficiently...and all this goes back to my 'brilliant' speed to blocking and auto-deleting information in myhead.
4) If there s such a thing called 'Internal Anger Management Course' or something like that, then I ll need to join it.
5)and to work on my greatest weaknesses...:
a) my self confidence
b) my indecisiveness
c) my lack of enthusiasm for certain important things in life
d) on how I can easily get bored of things. I need to find something that will keep me interested for a long time.
Anyway, its nearly 7pm now..I have to go. to be continued... xxx
Monday, September 22, 2008
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Brief Updates:
This month has been particularly busy...especially catching up and sungkai-ing out with friends whom I havent seen for ages. Its been fun...and I realize how much life have changed since my graduation back in 2005.
This is also the month where I am catching up with all the pending work as a result of my one month course back in June. It is not progressing as much as I wanted it to be..but it is moving towards that direction slowly.
Its my fourth month..and I am not enjoying work. I dont think the work suits me..or I suit being there. either way, despite months of giving it chances, I still fail to enjoy it. So, we'll see what I intend to do next...
Till my next post..xxx
This month has been particularly busy...especially catching up and sungkai-ing out with friends whom I havent seen for ages. Its been fun...and I realize how much life have changed since my graduation back in 2005.
This is also the month where I am catching up with all the pending work as a result of my one month course back in June. It is not progressing as much as I wanted it to be..but it is moving towards that direction slowly.
Its my fourth month..and I am not enjoying work. I dont think the work suits me..or I suit being there. either way, despite months of giving it chances, I still fail to enjoy it. So, we'll see what I intend to do next...
Till my next post..xxx
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Article of the day
Was searching for an article for my work...then came across the interesting title...'saying what you don't do'. Couldnt helping myself...had to find out what the article is all about and I find it rather interesting as it is something that we can easily relate to.
Enjoy reading ;)
Saying what you don't do
Dr Khalid Sa'ud al-Hulaybi
Friday, July 25, 2008
RARELY do people live up to everything that they say. It is part of our human condition. Some of us almost always follow through with what we say, so that there is almost never a discrepancy between our words and deeds. Some of us act before we speak.
Some of us speak readily, then drag our feet when getting around to doing what we say we are going to do — but ultimately get it done.
There are those of us who mean what they say, sincerely, but never get around to doing it. Then there are those who nobody should bother waiting for them to do anything, because they never seriously mean to do what they say.
This is a logical breakdown of people with respect to their doing what they say. Some people might consider it too obvious to need mentioning.
However, more astute minds would have started pondering on this topic from the moment they read read the title. By the time they finished reading the introductory paragraph, they would feel some personal distress. This is what I intended.
As the old saying goes: "When a person takes himself to task, only then he becomes worthy of esteem."
We often say and do things without thinking. Then, worse still, we fail to evaluate our words and deeds. We never look at ourselves critically.
We might fall into the trap of heedlessness on one occasion. We might succumb to difficult circumstances on another. We might even fall into sin.
Allâh says: "It is most hateful to Allâh for you to say what you do not do." (surah al-Saff: 2-3)
People generally look positively on those who practice what they preach. This is why it is a compliment to call someone "a man of his word".
We look upon a doer differently than we do upon a mere "sayer". A doer is respected and trusted, someone you can do business with.
The glib talker, on the other hand, is looked down upon, distrusted, and his words are laughed at. We know there is no substance to what he says. A person who works is at the threshold of true satisfaction. If he makes work his habit, he will achieve it.
Philosophers have contemplated the meaning of Earthly happiness, but I have not found anything better or truer than: "Happiness is in achievement."
This definition of happiness approaches the concept from the angle of activity and productive work. We should most certainly plan out our efforts, but we should not waste all of our time in aimless planning.
I have seen so many cases where precious time is spent in holding consultations, mapping out objectives, and articulating dreams — but without any productive work ever coming of it.
Those who people take as role models — and those who set themselves up to be role models — are individuals whose lives are their deeds. If their deeds disgrace them, then they are truly disgraced — in their own eyes, in the eyes of society, and maybe even in the eyes of God. People are more comfortable with someone who is true to his word, even when that person makes a decision that is contrary to their interests. This is because they know where they stand with him, and they respect that.
Allâh tells us that the Prophet Syu'aib, peace be upon him, said to his people: "I wish not, in opposition to you, to do that which I forbid you to do. I only desire (your) betterment to the best of my power; and my success (in my task) can only come from Allâh. In Him I trust, and unto Him I look." (surah Hud: 88)
A person might stumble when he walks, but he is still better than someone sitting still. A person might fall when he runs, but he is still faster than someone who walks.
A ship at sea is in danger of sinking, but the ship was not made to stay in the harbour forever.Islam Today
Was searching for an article for my work...then came across the interesting title...'saying what you don't do'. Couldnt helping myself...had to find out what the article is all about and I find it rather interesting as it is something that we can easily relate to.
Enjoy reading ;)
Saying what you don't do
Dr Khalid Sa'ud al-Hulaybi
Friday, July 25, 2008
RARELY do people live up to everything that they say. It is part of our human condition. Some of us almost always follow through with what we say, so that there is almost never a discrepancy between our words and deeds. Some of us act before we speak.
Some of us speak readily, then drag our feet when getting around to doing what we say we are going to do — but ultimately get it done.
There are those of us who mean what they say, sincerely, but never get around to doing it. Then there are those who nobody should bother waiting for them to do anything, because they never seriously mean to do what they say.
This is a logical breakdown of people with respect to their doing what they say. Some people might consider it too obvious to need mentioning.
However, more astute minds would have started pondering on this topic from the moment they read read the title. By the time they finished reading the introductory paragraph, they would feel some personal distress. This is what I intended.
As the old saying goes: "When a person takes himself to task, only then he becomes worthy of esteem."
We often say and do things without thinking. Then, worse still, we fail to evaluate our words and deeds. We never look at ourselves critically.
We might fall into the trap of heedlessness on one occasion. We might succumb to difficult circumstances on another. We might even fall into sin.
Allâh says: "It is most hateful to Allâh for you to say what you do not do." (surah al-Saff: 2-3)
People generally look positively on those who practice what they preach. This is why it is a compliment to call someone "a man of his word".
We look upon a doer differently than we do upon a mere "sayer". A doer is respected and trusted, someone you can do business with.
The glib talker, on the other hand, is looked down upon, distrusted, and his words are laughed at. We know there is no substance to what he says. A person who works is at the threshold of true satisfaction. If he makes work his habit, he will achieve it.
Philosophers have contemplated the meaning of Earthly happiness, but I have not found anything better or truer than: "Happiness is in achievement."
This definition of happiness approaches the concept from the angle of activity and productive work. We should most certainly plan out our efforts, but we should not waste all of our time in aimless planning.
I have seen so many cases where precious time is spent in holding consultations, mapping out objectives, and articulating dreams — but without any productive work ever coming of it.
Those who people take as role models — and those who set themselves up to be role models — are individuals whose lives are their deeds. If their deeds disgrace them, then they are truly disgraced — in their own eyes, in the eyes of society, and maybe even in the eyes of God. People are more comfortable with someone who is true to his word, even when that person makes a decision that is contrary to their interests. This is because they know where they stand with him, and they respect that.
Allâh tells us that the Prophet Syu'aib, peace be upon him, said to his people: "I wish not, in opposition to you, to do that which I forbid you to do. I only desire (your) betterment to the best of my power; and my success (in my task) can only come from Allâh. In Him I trust, and unto Him I look." (surah Hud: 88)
A person might stumble when he walks, but he is still better than someone sitting still. A person might fall when he runs, but he is still faster than someone who walks.
A ship at sea is in danger of sinking, but the ship was not made to stay in the harbour forever.Islam Today
Sunday, July 20, 2008
How and when?
When you are in a situation that seems to be stagnant and one sided. and when it seems like its YOU who has been doing all the hard work and effort to ensure it will work out fine..and work out according to plan.
When is it do we say enough?
How do we know its time to let go?
When should we let go?
I scared myself a few weeks ago when I said to myself that I am ready to let go. Then i just brushed it off.
I guess it is normal for us to fear the unknown and the new ones.
I have to sign off now...my thoughts are everywhere.
xxx
When you are in a situation that seems to be stagnant and one sided. and when it seems like its YOU who has been doing all the hard work and effort to ensure it will work out fine..and work out according to plan.
When is it do we say enough?
How do we know its time to let go?
When should we let go?
I scared myself a few weeks ago when I said to myself that I am ready to let go. Then i just brushed it off.
I guess it is normal for us to fear the unknown and the new ones.
I have to sign off now...my thoughts are everywhere.
xxx
Friday, June 20, 2008
Got this from a forwarded email...nice reading...
(except for the man's poem..lol)
A WOMAN'S POEM:
Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks.
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door.
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to
'how big is my behind?'
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
A MAN'S POEM:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with huge boobs who owns a
bar on a golf course, and loves to send me fishing and drinking.
This doesn't rhyme and I don't give a shit!
xxx
(except for the man's poem..lol)
A WOMAN'S POEM:
Before I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man, who's not a creep,
One who's handsome, smart and strong.
One who loves to listen long,
One who thinks before he speaks,
One who'll call, not wait for weeks.
I pray he's gainfully employed,
When I spend his cash, won't be annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door.
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh! Send me a man who'll make love to my mind,
Knows what to answer to
'how big is my behind?'
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And always be my very best friend.
A MAN'S POEM:
I pray for a deaf-mute gymnast nymphomaniac with huge boobs who owns a
bar on a golf course, and loves to send me fishing and drinking.
This doesn't rhyme and I don't give a shit!
xxx
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Sunday, June 08, 2008
Friday, May 23, 2008
CAN YOU BELIEVE IT!!!!
I am at the moment stuck and stranded inside my office.
WHY?
Apparently the main automatic door has been locked. And the supposedly security who should be guarding outside is nowhere to be seen.
Now...I have to wait for my colleague who will return to the office to collect his laptop and all. So what more enjoying that going online. lol.
I find this in a way funny...though I cant explain why. But I do hope I will be out of this building before maghrib...which is just in a few minutes. Hmm. Another unfortunate event!!
Anyway, we have finally move to our permanent seat..and my table looks 'naked'. I want to add a few character to it so that it wont be dull.
Let me list some of the things I will need:
- small shelf...the height of my divider...which will mean dua tingkat saja.
- a proper place to put my pen next to my desktop...I saw one di Serusop. It a figure of a cat putting its arm together. Lawa!! And cheap. lol.
- proper divider for my books and papers
- ?
What I want:
This is the interesting bit...hehe..not that I want much...a few saja.
- a tall plant...im thinking around 16inch...should be more or less the height of my divider to be place at the corner of my L shaped table. And im thinking maybe those small miniature bamboo would be nice.
- another plant...with colour...to be place next to my desktop.
- something that I can stick on my divider.. mayb family picture. or maybe I would like to keep my life private..;p
Thats all I can think of right now. I just want it to be simple and nice.
Since my colleague is not here yet......let me think of what to write. Hmm.
Here are some random things in my head.
A foreign doctor working in Brunei asked me why I never opted to take medicine. Seriously, I dont know why. Maybe it never occured to me. I dont even remember.
What I do remember...I wanted to be a forensic...then Im stuck with the idea of being an archaeologists. And now, I am completely doing a different thing. Its funny how our life always turn out to be different from our plans.
Anyway, my colleague is here now.
Got to go...dont want to be a prisoner for long...;p
xxx
I am at the moment stuck and stranded inside my office.
WHY?
Apparently the main automatic door has been locked. And the supposedly security who should be guarding outside is nowhere to be seen.
Now...I have to wait for my colleague who will return to the office to collect his laptop and all. So what more enjoying that going online. lol.
I find this in a way funny...though I cant explain why. But I do hope I will be out of this building before maghrib...which is just in a few minutes. Hmm. Another unfortunate event!!
Anyway, we have finally move to our permanent seat..and my table looks 'naked'. I want to add a few character to it so that it wont be dull.
Let me list some of the things I will need:
- small shelf...the height of my divider...which will mean dua tingkat saja.
- a proper place to put my pen next to my desktop...I saw one di Serusop. It a figure of a cat putting its arm together. Lawa!! And cheap. lol.
- proper divider for my books and papers
- ?
What I want:
This is the interesting bit...hehe..not that I want much...a few saja.
- a tall plant...im thinking around 16inch...should be more or less the height of my divider to be place at the corner of my L shaped table. And im thinking maybe those small miniature bamboo would be nice.
- another plant...with colour...to be place next to my desktop.
- something that I can stick on my divider.. mayb family picture. or maybe I would like to keep my life private..;p
Thats all I can think of right now. I just want it to be simple and nice.
Since my colleague is not here yet......let me think of what to write. Hmm.
Here are some random things in my head.
A foreign doctor working in Brunei asked me why I never opted to take medicine. Seriously, I dont know why. Maybe it never occured to me. I dont even remember.
What I do remember...I wanted to be a forensic...then Im stuck with the idea of being an archaeologists. And now, I am completely doing a different thing. Its funny how our life always turn out to be different from our plans.
Anyway, my colleague is here now.
Got to go...dont want to be a prisoner for long...;p
xxx
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Few updates
Been doing a lot of catching up session with *L*, a dearest friend of mine this week. Going to miss him a lot when he goes back to work to the other side of the world end of next week.
Work - its been 3 weeks. It will be the 4th week the coming Monday. Deadlines lining up but its been fine despite the pressure to catch up with time. Will probably move office as well next week ;)
Today - My first weekend where I had to go to work half day to get something done.
Then I had nasi ayam mango for lunch. Give it a try ppl at Happy Dean. Nyaman rupanya. Never heard of nasi ayam mango before until today. lol.
After lunch, went for a quick drink with L and discussed a number of issues around us. Learning more about him.
Then, I watched RUGBY live for the first time with Nadz. OMG! Some of them just ran into each other like nothing...so the smaller ones lah yang kesian. I called the opposing teams the 'bees and the ants'...haha..They actually terpelanting you know...like when we buang our bag on the couch. lol. I would love to see more of live RUGBY. Its a very different atmosphere when compared us sitting down infront of the TV. lol.
And now Im at home. Decided that my body needs rest though I have more plans up my sleeves. So im taking a few days break with more rest for my system. lol.
OK, thats it for now.
xxx
Been doing a lot of catching up session with *L*, a dearest friend of mine this week. Going to miss him a lot when he goes back to work to the other side of the world end of next week.
Work - its been 3 weeks. It will be the 4th week the coming Monday. Deadlines lining up but its been fine despite the pressure to catch up with time. Will probably move office as well next week ;)
Today - My first weekend where I had to go to work half day to get something done.
Then I had nasi ayam mango for lunch. Give it a try ppl at Happy Dean. Nyaman rupanya. Never heard of nasi ayam mango before until today. lol.
After lunch, went for a quick drink with L and discussed a number of issues around us. Learning more about him.
Then, I watched RUGBY live for the first time with Nadz. OMG! Some of them just ran into each other like nothing...so the smaller ones lah yang kesian. I called the opposing teams the 'bees and the ants'...haha..They actually terpelanting you know...like when we buang our bag on the couch. lol. I would love to see more of live RUGBY. Its a very different atmosphere when compared us sitting down infront of the TV. lol.
And now Im at home. Decided that my body needs rest though I have more plans up my sleeves. So im taking a few days break with more rest for my system. lol.
OK, thats it for now.
xxx
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Someone made me smile
A friend commented on my blog few hours ago while we were chatting..and it made me smile.
I've known her since my first year uni and I have to say that I never really know what my friends really think of me...after all these years. Most would say I'm nice, though I think I can be the complete opposite ;)
Anyway, she said...something along this line...
Btw, i like ur posts in ur blog sal the girls thingy. and the rest was cali..like apakan...i can imagine u writing them do n u know the look on ur face.
hm u may look sweet and innocent from the outside, mcm the type yang doesnt speak much mcm awu2 saja, biasa kan ayu..tapi once u open ur mouth..its like semua orang lari coz it fieryyy.. and powerful.
...the end...
Well, you know who you are..and thanks so much for the comments. Hehe. And yes, I take it as a compliment ;)
So...I'm wondering, do I get to hear anymore comments from the rest? ;p
xxx
A friend commented on my blog few hours ago while we were chatting..and it made me smile.
I've known her since my first year uni and I have to say that I never really know what my friends really think of me...after all these years. Most would say I'm nice, though I think I can be the complete opposite ;)
Anyway, she said...something along this line...
Btw, i like ur posts in ur blog sal the girls thingy. and the rest was cali..like apakan...i can imagine u writing them do n u know the look on ur face.
hm u may look sweet and innocent from the outside, mcm the type yang doesnt speak much mcm awu2 saja, biasa kan ayu..tapi once u open ur mouth..its like semua orang lari coz it fieryyy.. and powerful.
...the end...
Well, you know who you are..and thanks so much for the comments. Hehe. And yes, I take it as a compliment ;)
So...I'm wondering, do I get to hear anymore comments from the rest? ;p
xxx
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Trust your instincts!!
I was contemplating whether to use the Telanai road or just passed the Istana earlier today. Then I decided to passed the Istana as it is a more straight journey to go to Batu Besurat.
When I stopped at the traffic light at the Telanai junction, it randomly hit me that maybe there will be a road block today so I shouldn't drive fast. So I slowed down by a few double digits km/hr. But after passing few houses along Damuan, i just put off my feelings aside. And it was at that very moment that I saw two policeman sitting down on the grass with this black thing to catch the speed.
I quickly hit my brake and swear to myself after I realized they caught me. They looked and smiled when they understood my expression as I put my palms over my mouth or face. lol.
And of course a policeman stopped me a few minutes later and told me to go to the side.
Fortunately, I knew the guy who stopped me...and a few seconds later he realized that he knew me as well (thank god!!!)
He asked me why am I speeding. I was driving as fast as 85. And me..not knowing what to say...told him the truth...
'I am speeding coz I am late'
..and I've hit on my brakes so it was supposed to be 65..
He said ..we caught u 200m before u break.
I couldn't help laughing inside..thinking how stupid it was to tell them the truth.
Anyway, I promised him not to drive as fast along that road anymore.
Moral of the story:
Trust your instincts.
This is not the first time that I've pushed my instinct to the side where it bites me back..
xxx
I was contemplating whether to use the Telanai road or just passed the Istana earlier today. Then I decided to passed the Istana as it is a more straight journey to go to Batu Besurat.
When I stopped at the traffic light at the Telanai junction, it randomly hit me that maybe there will be a road block today so I shouldn't drive fast. So I slowed down by a few double digits km/hr. But after passing few houses along Damuan, i just put off my feelings aside. And it was at that very moment that I saw two policeman sitting down on the grass with this black thing to catch the speed.
I quickly hit my brake and swear to myself after I realized they caught me. They looked and smiled when they understood my expression as I put my palms over my mouth or face. lol.
And of course a policeman stopped me a few minutes later and told me to go to the side.
Fortunately, I knew the guy who stopped me...and a few seconds later he realized that he knew me as well (thank god!!!)
He asked me why am I speeding. I was driving as fast as 85. And me..not knowing what to say...told him the truth...
'I am speeding coz I am late'
..and I've hit on my brakes so it was supposed to be 65..
He said ..we caught u 200m before u break.
I couldn't help laughing inside..thinking how stupid it was to tell them the truth.
Anyway, I promised him not to drive as fast along that road anymore.
Moral of the story:
Trust your instincts.
This is not the first time that I've pushed my instinct to the side where it bites me back..
xxx
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Interesting read...
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GROWN WOMAN AND A GIRL
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time ( i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.
Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends. Do not go where the path may lead, go instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."
What do you guys think?
xxx
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GROWN WOMAN AND A GIRL
Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time ( i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.
Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends. Do not go where the path may lead, go instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."
What do you guys think?
xxx
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Thursday, March 20, 2008
I was browsing through random blogs when I came across this entry. I think it is an interesting entry made by 'Wearing Sunscreen'.
Hope you will enjoy it as much as I did.
The meaning of silence
Seller used to say to me that he never wore a watch because it nagged at him and reminded him that he was late. From this he deduced that all watches were female. This, amongst his many other idiosyncrasies, used to make me laugh.
Women nag. Apparently. Thing is we don't see it that way. To us it's discussing a problem. To us it's opening that discussion. Admittedly, not in the most conducive of ways, but really, generally when you've GOT to talk about something, it really bothers you so you're probably not going to be thinking how conducive your opening words are. It's unacceptable to pretend it never happened and hope it goes away. Women by nature are not Ostriches.
And men complain about this. However if we never nagged then nothing would ever get resolved. Men grumble about it like it's the worst thing in the world.
But it's not.
It's when she's silent that there is a problem. Because when a woman is silent it's because she just doesn't care anymore.
Contrary to what we were taught in primary school, the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference.
For as long as it matters to her to talk it out. For as long as she is trying to understand and to make you understand. For as long as she brings the matter up. That is how long YOU matter. For that period of time your thoughts, actions and feelings matter to her. They have a bearing on how she thinks and feels. They count.
But when she is silent, she has given up on you. When she is silent, it just doesn't matter anymore. When she is silent she has no more expectations of you.
When she is silent, YOU do not matter. She is indifferent.
So yes, the opposite of love is indifference.
Hope you will enjoy it as much as I did.
The meaning of silence
Seller used to say to me that he never wore a watch because it nagged at him and reminded him that he was late. From this he deduced that all watches were female. This, amongst his many other idiosyncrasies, used to make me laugh.
Women nag. Apparently. Thing is we don't see it that way. To us it's discussing a problem. To us it's opening that discussion. Admittedly, not in the most conducive of ways, but really, generally when you've GOT to talk about something, it really bothers you so you're probably not going to be thinking how conducive your opening words are. It's unacceptable to pretend it never happened and hope it goes away. Women by nature are not Ostriches.
And men complain about this. However if we never nagged then nothing would ever get resolved. Men grumble about it like it's the worst thing in the world.
But it's not.
It's when she's silent that there is a problem. Because when a woman is silent it's because she just doesn't care anymore.
Contrary to what we were taught in primary school, the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference.
For as long as it matters to her to talk it out. For as long as she is trying to understand and to make you understand. For as long as she brings the matter up. That is how long YOU matter. For that period of time your thoughts, actions and feelings matter to her. They have a bearing on how she thinks and feels. They count.
But when she is silent, she has given up on you. When she is silent, it just doesn't matter anymore. When she is silent she has no more expectations of you.
When she is silent, YOU do not matter. She is indifferent.
So yes, the opposite of love is indifference.
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